IT WAS ABOUT 11:47PM ON THURSDAY NIGHT WHEN THE HOSPITAL IN SPRINGFIELD HAD CALLED ME. I WAS AT MY MOTHERS SISTERS HOUSE IN UPSTATE NEW YORK. THEY TOLD US SHE HAD TAKEN A TURN FOR THE WORST AND BLOOD PRESSURE WAS DROPPING. SOME PEOPLE WILL ASK WHY HOSPITAL DID NOT CALL ANY ONE ELLS IN FAMILY TOO. I DIRECTED THEM NOT TO WITH OUT MY CONSENT. I FEARED THAT OTHERS WOULD PULL THE PLUG ON HER BEFORE I COULD BE THERE. MAINLY MY AUNT MARY.
SO I AND KRIS, LEFT ARE DAUGHTER WITH EILEEN. AND DROVE TO SPRINGFIELD MASSACHUSETTS,. ONCE WE WERE IN THE BERKSHIRES ON THE MASS TURN PIKE. WE PUT CALLS INTO MY FAMILY MEMBERS BY CELL PHONE. CALLS WENT OUT TO MARY,GENEVA, JENN, AND ANITA. THERE WAS NO WAY OF CONTACTING JAMES BY PHONE. WE DID NOT CALL JOHN. DUE TO HIS PREEXISTING MENTAL HEALTH ISSUES. GENEVA, SAID SHE WOULD GO TO THEM AND TELL THEM.
I AND KRIS ARRIVED AT HOSPITAL AROUND A LITTLE AFTER 1:00AM. MARY AND HER TWO DAUGHTERS ARRIVED SOME TIME AROUND 1:30AM. THE DOCTORS HAD TOLD US THERE WAS PRESSURE ON BRAIN STEM AND POSSIBLE BLEEDING. THAT THEY HAD RAN ALL THE NORMAL TEST AND MORE AT MY REQUEST. THERE SHOWED NO BRAIN ACTIVITY IN UPPER BRAIN AT ALL. AT THAT POINT MARY SAID ARE YOU READY TO ME. I SAID READY FOR WHAT? TO PULL THE PLUG. SHE'S GONE! SHE WAS NOT IN THE ROOM 10 MINUETS AND SHE WANTED MY MOTHER TAKEN OFF LIFE SUPPORT. I TOLD HER NO. NOT YET! GENEVA AND MY BROTHERS ARE NOT HERE YET. AT THAT POINT KRIS WENT TO CALL MY STEP SISTER TO SEE IF THEY WERE ON THEIR WAY. SHE RETURNED A FEW MINUETS LATER AND SAID, GENEVA AND THE BOYS ARE STAYING AT THE HOUSE. SO THEY WONT BE COMING. I KEPT WATCHING THE MACHINES AS THE NUMBERS FOR HER BLOOD PRESSURE GOT LOWER AND LOWER.
AT 2:05AM I GAVE THE DOCTORS THE OK TO TAKE MOM OFF LIFE SUPPORT. WE ALL LEFT THE ROOM FOR ABOUT 10 MINUETS AS THEY REMOVED THE TUBES AND STUFF. WE ALL WENT BACK IN THE ROOM AND STOOD BY MOM'S BED. SHE DIED AT 2:25AM FRIDAY MORNING. THE DOCTORS AND NURSES THERE WERE VERY KIND AND COMPASSIONATE TO MY MOTHER. THEY TREATED HER AS A PERSON NOT A NUMBER IN A BED. AS THE DOCTOR WAS ASKING ME QUESTIONS IN REGARDS TO WANTING A AUTOPSY, MARY INTERRUPTED WITH I WILL CALL FUNERAL HOME TO LET THEM KNOW. TALK ABOUT JUMPING THE GUN. THAT COULD HAVE WAITED TILL MORNING.
SO WHY WAS SHE IN SUCH A RUSH TO HAVE MOM DEAD? WAS SHE HURTING AND THIS IS HOW SHE WAS GRIEVING? WAS SHE MAYBE TIRED AND JUST WANTED TO GET HOME BACK TO BED? OR WAS SHE WANTING TO TAKE OVER MOM'S THROWN. THE ANSWER TO THESE QUESTIONS MAY NEVER BE ANSWERED. OR I SHOULD SAY ANSWERED HONESTLY! HAD I ALLOWED MY AUNT TO PULL THE PLUG WHEN SHE WANTED TOO. I AM SURE HAD MY BROTHERS AND STEP SISTER SHOWED UP AFTER THAT. I WOULD HAVE BEEN BLAMED FOR TAKING MOM OFF LIFE SUPPORT.
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Different people deal with stuff, very much including death, differently. While your sister's behaviour was irritating/troublesome to you, it doesn't sound so unreasonably to me. People do weird things when people die, it's a hard time for everyone. And no one can be as annoying as your family ;) I hope your grieving is going okay, and that your negative feelings toward your sister aren't so strong. And that you are not feeling too bad. Peace.
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