Rose Ann Hover Ledbetter

I will start by introducing my mother. I will use the first part of her obituary that I wrote and The Berkshire Eagle published in June of 2008.
Rose Ann Hover Ledbetter, 53, of Pittsfield passed away on May 30, 2008, at Bay state Medical Center in Springfield from complications from a hart attack suffered on May 23.

The oldest daughter of the late Edward and Ann Hover of Dalton. Rose grew up in the town of Dalton, and attended school in the Central Berkshire school district. While growing up, she was a member of St Agnes Catholic Church. Rose worked for many years for Meridian, where she was a home health aide and care giver.

My mother had two younger sisters. Eileen and a sister I will refer to as Aunt No toes. My mother was definitely the rebel or black sheep of her family. My mother was not a law breaker but she seemed to find lots of trouble or some would say it found her. LOL! My mother was her own person in so many ways good and bad. Her relationships with certain family members and friends differed in so many ways on so many levels. My mothers relationship with her parents was tested many time as she was growing up. But they never stoped loving her. They did at one point cut communications with her due to her rush into her second marriage with my step father. They did have good reasons, due to the fact they had spent their hard earned money to help get her back on track from her failed relationship with my Birth father. There is a lot more to that storie. I will writ more about it in a future blog. My mothers relationship with her sisters over the years varied from good to fair for the most part. My aunt Eileen was the second born in my moms family. They talked by phone every once in awhile. When they did my mother tend to go on about drama in her life, or call and ask for a favor (money). But Eileen would say yes or no politely and if need be would just say I need to go. I will go into greater details in a future blog. As for aunt No toes, Mom and her were really close. They would hang out together talk a lot on phone too. Aunt No Toes, would baby sit us kids a lot for mom along with aunt Eileen. But in the end they did not care for one another at all. They were polite in matters of communications regarding aunt No Toes, youngest child. Who was in the custody of her ex Husband. There is much more to this in a future blog as well. As for me my relationship with my mother, it was not normal by no means. My mother like to play favorites among her 4 boys when we were growing up. My mother favored my dead brother Anthony, over me. She later favored my two younger brothers over me and my brother Anthony. No parent should ever favor one child over the other. They should love all their children unconditionally and equally. This was a concept that escaped my mother completely. This was not how my mother was raised by her parents. She grew up in a loving and stable home. My mother was at times very mean to me growing up. She was verbally, mentally, and physically, abusive to me. Some family members would also say neglectfully at times. I was not the only child in are home that got beat. I will go more into details in Future blogs about this.

But in the end I can say, I and my mother, had built a better relationship along with stronger communications between us both. Well that's it for today will have more tomorrow blog.